I hate crushes. I hate them with a burning passion.
Since when did society decide this was the way that we were going to handle dating? Because I’m fairly sure this is the stupidest way we could have come up with. Most of the time, we barely get to know someone before we decide we like them, or other people around you decide you should like them. Stupid.
Next, it’s stupid that after that factor is decided, we lose all desire to just be their friend. It becomes a game. You don’t actually get to know them, you get to know the method they use. What they say, what they do, and how you react to it is all planned out, calculated, and is put toward whether or not you are a suitable person to date, not whether you are generally a nice person or not. It’s not really if they like you for your personality, no. That’s not it at all.
Then, they either decide to further use you and manipulate you, or move on to the next victim. If they decide to keep you along, then begins the awkward body language stage. They ask you’re friends if you look interested, they play tricks to try and get you’re attention. They look at how your poor little heart reacts when they sit close to you. Are you attracted to them? The sad part is, that they don’t actually like you at this point, they’re seeing if you do, to make sure it’s even worth getting to that point. If so, they might start to like you, and then the awful fast paced dating begins, where you get to know each other after you’re romantically involved, though it should be the other way around.
Or, they could start looking around to see if there is anything better, while they keep you on the line too, just in case…
That is what I find to be the worst part. I hate when they lead you on, and when they find something better, even though they’ve already stirred up you’re feelings, they move on to the next one. Usually you’re friend. Oh, how wonderful.
And when you get upset about it, people think there is something wrong with you. “Calm down, it’s not like you were actually dating..” So that’s what settles it then? Oh that stupid, game we made up that manipulates what love is all about? That’s what decides if my feelings matter? Oh well, sorry, I didn’t know. Thanks for filling me in!
It’s so sick and wrong that we have manipulated and torn up love so bad that this is what it looks like now a days. You can mess with someone’s head, heart, and body, and you don’t even have to have any real feelings for them. Wonderful!
I’m so tired of today’s dating scene. And yes, of course, there are those christians who say, “oh I don’t date, I’m just going to wait for the right one, and then we’ll get married down the road.” Great for you, but from what I’ve seen, you’re not doing that at all. You play the game just as bad! You may not date them, but you’re checking them out, seeing how they react, seeing if it’s even worth befriending them, because you don’t even want to befriend them if you’re not going to consider them for marriage! And when you do find someone, sure you say you’re friends, and you don’t have the typical appearance of dating, but you analyze everything they say, take it into account as if you’re dating them, and then you expect everyone to back off of him because he ‘might be the one’ some day. Bull crap you’re not dating!!!
Gah!!! I’m just so angry about this right now!!! If you can’t tell, I’m bitter about this, probably because I just had a nice dose of “the game” shoved down my throat. It sucks. You can’t just have a guy friend. You can’t just like the guy, and want to get to know him more. That’s just not how it works. It’s so unfair. It’s either you like each other, and the gossip flies, or nothing. I can’t just have someone that I might be interested in, and have a friendship with him. It doesn’t work. If I have feelings for him, he either sees if it will work in his favor, or he turns tail, because he’s afraid I’m going to force him into the awful trap that is dating, or vice versa. This is so dumb, and I’m so done with it. I guess I forgot how much of this drama and pressure there is at a christian school.
Well, here’s my reminder.
